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Are you lying your way to success? July 25, 2017

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They say there are no coincidences, and thus my ears perk up when I encounter the convergence of two ideas.

I stumbled across a study showing that people who demonstrate higher degrees of self-deception are more successful in the world.  Participants were asked a series of embarrassing questions written to reveal the dark side within us.   Those who lied reported being happier and feeling more successful in their pursuits.  This went beyond how they felt as they also earned more in their respective roles.

This study converged with a Buddhist principle I studied on self-compassion without self-deception.  The belief that if we drench honesty in compassion, we might live a more authentic, loving life.  Pema Chodron said “the definition of self confidence is self gentleness.”

If this is true, what do we make of the first study?  Have we, as a society, become so inept at self-compassion that self-deception is required to carve a happy productive life?  Have we replaced radical acceptance with deceit as a survival skill?

What if we could accept with compassion the whole truth of who we are without self-loathing?  What if we were amused by our flaws and forgiving of our failures?  What if we met weakness with a heart of curiosity versus a mindset of judgement?   Could this impact our joy?  Our authenticity? Our results?  And what if it had only one impact:  self love.  Would that be enough?

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Unending rain July 11, 2017

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rainy day

I’ve always marveled at our nature mirrors our life.  Rainy days are the perfect illustration.   Sometimes life seems so sunny & bright with all the pieces aligned & in flow. Our energy boundless & our ideas as expansive as the blue sky.

And sometimes it pours.   It’s in those moments when it’s gloomily overcast & it would the sun is never again coming out that we have a choice.  We can wallow in the darkness & tell ourselves woe is me stories or we can practice patient strength.  With a deep breath & a lift of our heart, we can radiate the joy and possibility that appears cloud covered; digging deep to ride the ebb and flow of what is external to us.

And even then, sometimes the rain just keeps coming.   A dreary moment becomes a dreary season, and still the choice stands in front of us.  Will we see the beauty?  Will we see the gift of the rain?  Will we honor natural cycles in our life without being a victim to them? Will we believe in the possibility of tomorrow’s rising sun and parting clouds?  Choose to bask.

 

Yep… I’m going there. You coming? June 27, 2017

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As a yoga instructor, I have frequently fielded the question of yoga & religion.  If you do a quick sweep of the internet, you’ll find all sorts of fabulous mythology, editorials, and “thou shalt” commands.

So for a moment, I invite you to lay aside the opinions of others and be in inquiry with your own wisdom:  What best support you on your path?

Could this wildly popular practice of yoga amplify my life?   Could it support me  in manifesting my beliefs in positive action while not judging the beliefs of others?  The world definitely needs more of you living your most beautiful life while simultaneously honoring others doing the same.

Yoga has no dog in the religion fight.   It is simply a series of habits intended to support you as your highest self.

The 8 tenets of yoga call us to practice habits of physical poses (asana), breathwork, treating others & ourselves with care, diciplining ourselves against distraction, and creating focused quiet in our life.   The intention is to calm our mind so that we may experience communion with what truly is our life’s inspiration.  For some, this is a life following Christ.  For some, this is a life steeped in loving kindness towards all.

John Shore said this brilliantly when asked if yoga competes with Christianity :

Yoga is a means of exercising one’s body, with the overall intention of clearing and calming one’s mind, so that one might then experience a natural elevation of consciousness. You are a Christian, meaning that you are, by definition, seeking Christ consciousness; you want to contain within yourself as much of the spiritual essence of Christ as possible. Using yoga to help you do that is like using a car to help you get somewhere you want to go. That’s what a car is for. That’s what a car does.  Like a car, yoga doesn’t care where you want to go; it only wants to help you get there. It is a means, not an end. A Muslim doing yoga will draw closer to Allah, a Jew to Yahweh, a Christian to Christ, an atheist to a heightened sense of oneness with all. Anyone seeking an elevated, peaceful, more centered mindset can use yoga to get it. That’s what yoga is for. That’s what yoga does.”

If someone suggests to you that yoga interferes with your faith or worse, derails it, ask them if they have ever sustained a yoga practice.  My experience is that this practice draws you closer with, touches you more deeply to, and expands the moments of connection to your Source.

And the whip cream on top?  You’ll feel better.  You’ll act better.  You’ll learn to step off the wheel of stress and into peaceful, joyful waters.  That’s fabulous for you.  That’s inspirational to the world.  That’s pleasing to your Creator.