My grandmother used to always say “that tickles my funny bone.” And she had a carefree, easy laughter that sang joy in her space. And while her life certainly challenges her at times, her attitude and perspective were steadily, if not resolutely, positive.
She feels deeply across the spectrum of emotions, and she taught me to allow others to see you fully. She’s not a hider, and yet, her most common state of being is joy. Even in the midst of a busy life, the early death of her spouse, and the mental illness of a child.
Sometimes we laugh spontaneously; overcome with pleasure. We find ourselves immersed in the sweetness of life’s nectar bemused, bright, and grateful.
And sometimes laughter is stifled by challenge and joy requires a deep dive into our heart. These are the moments that matter the most; when levity & light aren’t the natural byproduct of a circumstance.
In these moments, we choose. We choose the connector AND versus BUT as in “I am feeling deeply sad AND blessed.” In these moments, we decide to “be fully in” our life while not allowing a circumstance to override our spirit.
Most of the time we live somewhere in the middle. Our lives busy with routines and activities, we risk falling asleep at the wheel of our life. Missing the sparkle or the opportunity to just giggle a little and for no reason.
When we decide to cultivate joy in the tiniest of ways, we can trust that those tiniest moments added together turn into a powerful pattern of joyful living. As my dear friend Linzi would say: “Leave a sparkle trail of happiness to illuminate the way for others.”