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Leadership, Awareness, and Growth

What I know for sure… Maybe December 13, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — laurajuarez @ 1:14 pm

What I know with certainty is that I can know nothing with certainty.  That, regardless of my planning and dreaming, I cannot predict or control what this day will bring or who will enter my life.  I cannot govern with omnipotence over the outcomes of my relationships, my health, or my work.

I can influence, vision, plan, engage, develop, implement, design, construct, write, talk, initiate, and pursue.  And I cannot control.

We humans work hard to control – situations and others – needing desperately to know with certainty.  And when we have those moments of realizing that we cannot control, we worry, anguish, or try harder to control.

So can we just get over it and apply our persistence and drive elsewhere?  Can we get excited about the mystery?  Can we embrace the opportunities that appear to be three steps from the path we thought we were on?  Can we sit with gentleness in the challenges; leaning on our breath and our trust in divinity?

If you know me, you know I am not making a case for passive living.  I am not encouraging anyone to let the meandering river take you at whatever speed to whatever destination.  I am making a case for the middle path.

This is the sweet spot between creative living and goal based striving; between receiving with curiosity & giving with tenacity.  In my own experience, I have found that this sweet spot isn’t as foreign as we may initially believe.  That, in fact, our spirit recognizes it because, in our soul, we understand our lives are both a purposeful journey (effort) and a beautiful piece of art that blossoms organically and intuitively (ease).  Our spirit embraces challenge because growth is the pearl within.  Our spirit craves freedom & expression grounded in stability & strength.  Our spirit wants to receive with grace inthe gifts given to us along the way of our life.  Breathe.  Be present.  Notice.  Embrace.  And then get busy.

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Inquiring minds want to know December 8, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — laurajuarez @ 7:21 pm

What is inquiry?  I talk about this idea of inquiry quite a bit because I truly believe it is a gateway to living our life fully in the present moment.  What’s fascinating is that our comfort with inquiry shifts up or down based on the sensitivity of the topic at hand.  It’s easier for our minds to be curious when our hearts aren’t hurt or our egos bruised.  Of course, when inquiry is the least comfortable is when it is the most valuable.

More commonly, we understand the concept of inquiry but fail to initiate the action of inquiry.  To inquire is the action of observing without solving, processing without a need to be right, and listening without the need to be understood.  To inquire is the action of intentionally pausing to witness versus react & to get curious about the possibility, the learning, or the purpose of this moment’s construct.  As it is.

Think to the last heated conversation you had.  What might have been different if, in place of an emotional reaction, you wondered what you were to learn?  Think of the last time you felt unsuccessful.  What might have been different, if in place of justifying, hiding, fighting, or  shaming (you name your favorite coping mechanism), you simply took a deep breath and inquired about the next step best aligned with your highest good?

Yesterday in a yoga class, I realized I wasn’t breathing in floor bow.  At all.  After class, I commented on this to the student next to me, and she confirmed she also holds her breath in backbends.  She then immediately dove into a story around why, the architecture of the breath in the body, and the likelihood that most people do this.  See the pattern:  Event – Reaction – Justify – explain – commiserate.  What if she simply asked herself, “Hmmmm…. I wonder where else in my life I hold my breath?”

Inquiry is a muscle of growth and wisdom.  The question is:  Will we flex it?